(The following is not based on any of my real cases. It is an example of how I use my skills.)
“Deal with Your Anger” Painting by Elizabeth Brandon.
Single self-employed mother with three children
Pamela was a single mother with three small children. When she first came to me, she wanted to work on controlling her anger. We dealt with the traumatic events that caused her anger, then I taught her emotional skills. She saw a great improvement in her relationships.
Nevertheless, she saw a disturbing pattern with her oldest daughter. Her daughter saw her as the person who denied her things (disciplined her) and her father as the ‘treat giver.’ Pamela owned her own business and was very busy.
Skill: Nurtured Heart Parenting
I had suggested she learn to use Nurtured Heart Parenting. She put it off for almost a year. But, when she was going on a two week vacation, she decided to implement it fully. She came back wide-eyed and glowing.
“My children have been replaced by aliens,” she said jokingly. “They are a delight to be around. I fully enjoy their presence. If I had known it would make that much difference, I would have done it a long time ago.”
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